Meaning
To irritate or offend someone, often unintentionally, through one’s manner, attitude or way of speaking. The annoyance may arise even when nothing explicitly rude has been said.
Origin
The phrase evokes stroking an animal’s fur against its natural direction, producing discomfort. Its force is metaphorical; the expression describes interpersonal friction, not physical rubbing.
Examples
His smug tone really rubs me the wrong way.
I can’t explain it, but the way she interrupts people rubs me the wrong way.
He means well, but his jokes sometimes rub colleagues the wrong way.
Frequently asked questions
What does 'Rub someone the wrong way' mean?
To irritate or offend someone, often unintentionally, through one’s manner, attitude or way of speaking. The annoyance may arise even when nothing explicitly rude has been said.
How do you say 'Rub someone the wrong way' in Russian?
Действовать кому-то на нервы
How do you say 'Rub someone the wrong way' in Spanish?
Caerle mal a alguien
How do you say 'Rub someone the wrong way' in French?
Prendre quelqu’un à rebrousse-poil